Have things been a bit rocky in your relationship?
Whether you’re constantly fighting, your partner seems distant, or your feelings are just all over the place, these may be signs of a breakup. Breakups are not an easy thing to deal with. Heartbreak is a serious thing. You go from spending so much time with someone, then all of a sudden, it just stops…
Sometimes you may just be overthinking the situation – I’m definitely guilty of this! So, don’t think of the worse – everything might be fine. Of course, everyone wants to feel happy and secure in their relationship, so it’s important to figure out if your partner is thinking of breaking up with you, or if you want to breakup with them, but can’t come to terms with it.
Here are 10 signs of a breakup.
1. You're happier when you're apart
You might not even realize this at first, but try to really think about this… Are you happier when you’re not with your partner? If so, then that’s a sign that you’re going off of them. Of course, you wouldn’t want to believe this, but the heart wants what it wants. This might be the same situation with your partner. They might feel happier without you. You need to really ask yourself how you feel. Once you figure out if you’re happier with them or not, it’s time to ask them the same question. Then, you’ll get your answer if you should stay together.
2. They're acting different
You know your partner more than most people in their inner circle. When you’re in a relationship with someone, you get to know them like the back of your hand. You know their likes, dislikes, favorite foods, what makes them happiest, etc. So, if you noticed that your partner has started acting like a different person, then they might be debating a breakup. Again, this could always be from stress from work or school, but if they’ve started acting super different, it could be a sign of a breakup. If they’re not wanting to do their favorite things with you anymore, or they don’t get excited to spend time with you, then ask them what’s up. It’s important to figure out if the attitude change is from your relationship, or something else.
3. Less communication
With regular relationships, this is easier to tell. However, when you’re in a long distance relationship, communicating is hard enough! No matter how long you’ve been dating your partner, I’m sure you have a general idea of how often you speak. Some couples talk every minute of the day, whereas other couples only talk a couple times a day. If you notice that your partner isn’t texting or calling you as much, or they’re very one-worded, then something might be wrong. Ask them if everything is okay. If they’re not speaking to you as much anymore, it will definitely affect your relationship.
4. You're constantly fighting
This is usually the biggest sign that a breakup is in your near future. Fights are normal with relationships, however, not if they’re constantly happening. All couples fight once in a while, but if you notice that you’ve been fighting most days, then that’s a problem. Talk it out with your partner, get to know why they’re fighting with you all the time (and ask yourself the same thing). If the fighting doesn’t stop, then breaking up is the best thing for you both to do.
5. You're not intimate anymore
This point is for older couples who are used to being intimate with one another. So, if you’re young, then skip this part! You and your partner know your relationship more than anyone else does. If you notice that your partner doesn’t want to be intimate anymore, or if you’re getting the feeling of not wanting to do anything intimate anymore, then that’s another sign. For most couples, intimacy is an important aspect of a relationship. So, be open with your partner on how you feel.
6. Only one of you is putting in effort
Relationships are a two-way street. It will never succeed if only one person is putting in the effort. You both need to put in an equal amount of effort, so you can show your love for one another. No one wants to be in a relationship where they have to do all the work to keep the relationship alive. So, if you’re the only one who ever puts in effort, then talk to your partner about how you feel.
7. They don't let you see their phone
If your partner acts sketchy around their phone, then chances are something is up. This doesn’t give you the right to just go through their phone whenever you want, but they shouldn’t have anything to hide. They may be texting other people and don’t want you to see, or maybe searching for a new relationship on Tinder. So, if they hide away every time they take their phone out, definitely call them out on it.
8. You've thought about breaking up
Have you ever been in bed at night and just thought about the thought of breaking up with your partner? If so, how did it make you feel? Were you upset at the thought of it, or did it not bother you? If you weren’t bothered by it, then chances are you want to break up, but you don’t want to have to admit it. Like I said, breakups aren’t easy. You might still love your partner, so of course, you don’t want to break their heart. However, you need to also think about what is best for you. So, if you’re constantly debating the thought of if you should end it, then you should follow your heart.
9. You don't spend much time together
With some long distance relationships, this is the case anyway. However, if you notice that your partner isn’t trying to make plans with you to visit, or even if you keep calling off plans, then chances are you don’t want to see each other. And, if you don’t want to see each other, chances are you want to breakup. In happy relationships, you want to be around your partner, not always away from them.
10. Your partner annoys you
This may sound silly, because everyone can be annoying at times! I have a friend who was in a long, happy relationship. Then, as things progressed, she realized that everything her partner did just started to annoy her. I assured her that this wasn’t a normal thing, and that maybe she was falling out of love. This ended up to be the case, and they broke up a couple weeks later. She’s so much happier now, and so is he. Sometimes, breakups are just for the best. If everything your partner is doing just gets on your nerves, then that’s your body’s way of telling you that you’ve had enough of the relationship.
Well, those were 10 signs of a breakup.
Hopefully you will figure out what you truly want, and in the end, be happier than you are now. Again, sometimes people are just stressed and take it out on the people they’re around most, so make sure to communicate with your partner to see where the problem really lies.
Do you know of any other signs of a breakup? If so, comment them down below. If things don’t end up working out, then you can always start over in your relationship – as hard as it is, it’s possible!