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“How Do I Tell My Parents About My LDR?”


How to Tell Your Parents About Your Long Distance Relationship

One of the hardest parts about dating someone who lives far away is figuring out how to tell your parents about your long distance relationship… There’s no right or wrong way on how to tell your parents that you’ve decided to do that crazy little thing called ‘long distance’. Most people don’t really understand the struggles of a long distance relationship unless they’ve experienced it firsthand, so warning: it may end up being a little bit of an awkward conversation. You’re most likely going to be asked a lot of questions, too, so make sure you’re prepared with answers!

No need to worry though! Things will be hard to explain to your parents at first, but trust me when I say, it’ll get easier. Love is so much greater than distance, so if you really love someone, then it doesn’t matter if your friends or family approves. It’s what makes YOU happiest! (P.S. Check out our Love > Distance t-shirt by clicking here)

Here is advice on how to tell your parents about your long distance relationship!

Something I’d highly recommend not doing is telling your parents about your relationship through a text message. The biggest reason why I personally think it’s better to tell your parents in person is because they’ll be able to see your emotions, and let’s be real – everything is always better in person! They’ll be able to see the emotion behind what you’re saying which is super important. However, if you think you’d be more comfortable telling them over text or email, that’s totally fine. I just personally believe it’s better to have this discussion in real life rather than over the internet.

Step 1: Figure out what you’re going to say

Don’t just walk into their room and say “hey mom and dad, I’m dating someone who lives in a different country, ok bye!” – I can almost guarantee, they won’t be happy! Instead, think of how you’re going to word your conversation (this part is important!) – You need to assure them that you know this person. Not know-know, but know… does that make sense? Let me break that down.

Before telling your parents, you need to make sure that the person you’re talking to is actually real, and not a catfish. Get to know them over FaceTime or Skype. Nowadays, a photo isn’t going to cut it  – anyone can pretend to be someone else online. If you haven’t already, then you need to watch the show, Catfish! It’ll definitely inspire you to video call with them! So, just remember that it’s really important to make sure you know exactly who you’re talking to.

When you’re sure that who you’re talking to is who they say they are, then it’s time to tell your parents.

Step 2: Tell them that you’ve met someone who you have (or are thinking about having) a relationship with

Tell your parents about the different qualities of your boyfriend or girlfriend. If your partner makes you really happy, then make sure to tell that to your parents! If your partner is motivating and has inspired you to start trying new things that have benefited you, then mention that, too. Mention all the great things that you know about your partner. You want your parents to approve of them, so let them know how great of a person your partner is. If it comes off as they’re a complete stranger to you, then you can’t expect your parents to 100% approve of them. They only want what’s best for you, so show them that your partner is worth it!

Step 3: Tell them where your partner lives

Okay, here comes the hard part. This can go one of two ways… Either your parents are excited and intrigued, or they don’t like the idea of you dating someone who lives far away. 

There are so many different types of long distance relationships…  Your partner may live an hour’s drive away, 20 hours away, or sometimes, where they live isn’t driveable and you have to catch a flight! Regardless of how large the distance is, you need to ensure your parents that you’re making the right decision. I have so many stories of successful long distance couples that you could read about and show to your parents – check them out by clicking here!

Step 4: Tell them how you’re going to be able to afford the relationship

If the topic of money comes up, it would be best to already have a plan in place. Long distance relationships cost a lot more than an average relationship. In my particular case, I have to buy plane tickets from New York to England multiple times a year! Sometimes, you’ll also need to pay for hotels, trains, etc… It all adds up! Explain how you’re going to be able to afford the relationship, as that’s usually one of the biggest concerns from parents when talking about long distance. This is the step that you’re going to want to be most prepared for.

At the end of the day, regardless of what your friends or family think, this is your relationship – so, if it makes you happy, and it benefits you, then GO FOR IT! Your happiness is just as important as theirs.

Conclusion of How to Tell Your Parents About Your Long Distance Relationship!

If you need some more advice, then make sure to join our FB group to talk to other couples in long distance relationships! We’ve all had to have this conversation, so we know firsthand what you’re going through, and how you may be feeling. Click here to join!

Hopefully, everything will go smoothly during your talk! I’ll be honest, it’ll probably be a little awkward, but it’s something that you’re going to have to be honest about with your family.

I hope you gained some insight on how to tell your parents about your long distance relationship! If you’ve already had this conversation with your family, then comment down below to let us know how it went.

P.S. Speaking of being in a long distance relationship, if you’re currently in one, I’d love to hear your relationship story and potentially feature you and your partner on this blog! If interested, then please contact me here!

Wishing you the best of luck – You got this!

Monica Patterson

to perfectly sum me up, I'm a dad jokes enthusiast who's either busy filming videos on Youtube, petting a dog, or talking about my long distance relationship! I currently own 3 companies: Infinite Management (a social media management company) Hidden Candle (a personalized candle company) Long Distance Relationships Blog! alongside my companies, I'm a social media influencer who enjoys making videos on YouTube about my relationship and who loves to travel the world!




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  • B

    So I have a LDR boyfriend over Fortnite and never met him. I need to tell my dad because our family history with boyfriends isn’t the best… but I wanna tell him how I feel even though he doesn’t like the idea of a boyfriend. How can I do that?

  • Caleb Ewing

    How do I tell my parents about my LDR I’m worried that they will be mad at me for having a girlfriend that lives in Ohio

  • Remi

    Haha I have a partner that I met through their twitch streams and we are really happy together but I’m so terrified to tell my parents because I feel like they are going to disprove even if they video call with them. I’m also worried about age, my parents are five years apart but they met when they were 20 and 25 and my partner is 14 while I’m 12 so I feel like they are going to be mad at that for some reason. They already don’t like me having online friends but know multiple online celebrities that met their partner online so that gives me more confidence. I just have no clue when or how to tell them. Does anyone have any suggestions?

  • yeah 343

    my dad freaked out when he found out i had online friends lol, and when he found out i had a gf. he thought she was gonna kidnap me or something idk lol, and idk how to tell him now because my gf currently lives in denmark and i live in norway so yk its kinda close but i cant meet her bc my dad would freak out and he wont ever listen.

  • Safeyah Khan

    I’m in a LDR boyfriend he’s a Pakistani but live in UAE and we know each other for serval years and we love eachother so much and i told my mom and shes agree but when she told my dad he so much disagree he said why do I have to love someone from so far away and how I don’t know these people and so on… Tell me should I talk to my father myself and what should I say to him. I’m so afraid of him. But I Love that boy so much. He’s willingly ready to come to my country and live with me. Oh by the way I’m from Guyana.