There are tons of pros and cons of a long distance relationship...
I’ve been in a LDR for almost 4 years, so I feel like I’m an expert when it comes to knowing the pros and cons of a long distance relationship! Like other LDR couples, our relationship hasn’t been easy… But, we can happily say, we wouldn’t change this crazy, difficult, fun, relationship for anything!
You don’t have to be in a long distance relationship to agree that they can be a pain in the butt! However, the positives most definitely outweigh the negatives.
So, let’s start with the pros!
1. You get to travel
As they state in the name, long distance relationships consist of people who are, well, a long distance away! So, whether they live 500 miles, 1,000 miles, or over 5,000 miles away, you get to visit them in a new place. You get to experience where they live and you’ll get to travel! (Your Instagram will be poppin’ with some cool photos too, haha!)
2. You get alone time
Sometimes you need alone time. When you’re in a regular relationship, you see your partner every few days or so. However, when you’re in a long distance relationship, you’re with your partner for longer periods of time – whether you’re with them for 4 days straight, or 4 months straight, you don’t really get to be alone.
3. You appreciate your time more
Unfortunately, couples in long distance relationships don’t get to see each other as often as they’d like. Because of this, when you finally reunite with your partner, you learn to appreciate their company and your time more.
4. You still get butterflies
Okay, I’m not sure if this is just me, but every single time I’m reunited with my boyfriend, I cry of happiness and get that crazy butterfly feeling! Non LDR couples get to see their partner often, so that feeling could go away much quicker… Not for LDR couples, though! (Unless I’m just a crazily romantic, obsessed girlfriend, haha!)
5. You feel more special
Knowing that someone is so devoted to you that they’re willing to spend tons of money and time on your relationship is such a special feeling! You and your partner both equally sacrifice so much to be with each other – It just proves how much they love and appreciate you!
6. It builds trust
LDR’s won’t work unless you and your partner are completely open with each other. You have to be 100% honest and talk about your feelings. So, not seeing each other everyday helps you to build trust in a way that regular relationships can’t.
7. It strengthens you as a couple
Distance is never easy and it really tests how strong your relationship is. The number one reason why LDR couples break up is because the distance gets too much for them. If you and your partner survived (or are currently surviving) the distance, then kudos to you both – you’re a strong couple!
1. It’s expensive
Regardless of how far your partner lives, you’re still going to have to spend some money to go see them. It might be just spending money on gas for your car, a train ticket, or in my case, a round-trip flight. This is a big reason on why some long distance relationship couples don’t make it – it can get pretty expensive!
2. You get lonely
One of the hardest things for me personally is not being able to sleep next to my partner every night. We tend to get very lonely… You get so used to being with them all day and sleeping next to them, that when they’re gone, it just doesn’t feel the same.
3. Communication can be poor
This is one of the most annoying cons! My boyfriend lives in the middle of nowhere, which means, his wifi stinks! Our FaceTime calls always say ‘poor connection’ or ‘reconnecting’. I’m sure some of you can relate. It could be hard to stay connected when you live so far away from each other.
4. They’re far away
Do we really need to go into detail for this one?
What are some pros and cons that we didn't mention?
Obviously, there are a ton more pros and cons of a long distance relationship that we could go into detail about – these were only a few! If you’re thinking of starting a long distance relationship, we’d definitely recommend at least giving it a try. You never know, they could be the one!