We've all been guilty of getting jealous once or twice...
Jealousy can, (and most likely will), come up in any kind of relationship. However, when it comes to long distance relationships, things tend to get trickier. Whether you get jealous of a friend your partner is hanging out with, or something that your partner is doing without you, or just anything along those lines, then,
Here are some tips on how to not be jealous!
Don't think negatively
The worst thing you can do is think negative thoughts. If you’re constantly telling yourself that someone is better than you, or prettier than you, it’ll only make you feel worse and leave you feeling some sort of resentment and jealousy towards other people. Stop comparing, and learn to love yourself for who you are!
Be honest with your feelings
If there’s a certain someone that makes you feel uncomfortable in your long distance relationship, then you need to tell your partner. For example, if your boyfriend is friends with an ex and is constantly hanging out with her – you’re bound to get a bit jealous! Listen, we’re all human… This feeling is normal. But, if you cover up your emotions and don’t tell your partner that you feel jealous that he’s spending so much time with her, then nothing will change. If your partner truly loves you, they will take your feelings into consideration and you won’t have to feel that way anymore.
Tell yourself that they're with you for a reason
We’re all unique and special in our own ways. Your partner is with you, because you’re YOU. Don’t put yourself down so much! If your boyfriend or girlfriend hangs out with a lot of girls or boys that make you jealous, then remind yourself. ‘he’s mine!’ (or ‘she’s mine!). Your partner is with you for a reason – if they didn’t want to be with you, then they wouldn’t be. There’s no need to feel jealous, because at the end of the day, they’re your partner!
Take a break from social media
This is much easier said than done. Social media could be very toxic. There’s all these beautiful people constantly sharing their perfect lives, but something that’s important to remember is, it’s not actually perfect. People only share what they want you to see. It’s not healthy to compare yourself to ‘Instagram models’ because at the end of the day, their job is to portray a perfect life! Even they have bad hair days, or bad makeup days, and I can guarantee, they don’t always leave the house in such stylish outfits! Most of them have paid thousands of dollars to look the way that they do. I know this is going to sound extremely silly, but something that has really helped me is not following tons of models on Instagram. I’ll be honest, I do still follow a few, but not as many as I’d like. By doing this, I’m not constantly comparing myself to other people, which leads to less negative feelings. Get off social media for a few days! Trust me, you’ll feel so much better.
Don't judge other people
Sometimes, people try to belittle others to make themselves feel better… Don’t do that. It might temporarily make you feel better, but in the long end, it’ll make you feel worse. It’s okay to be jealous of what other people have, but there’s nothing stopping you from getting it yourself! If you’re jealous of a car someone has, you can always work smarter, and get it too! (For more tips on how to save money, click here) Another example is you might feel jealous of a friend your boyfriend is hanging out with. You might tell yourself ‘she’s not as pretty as me’, or ‘she seems annoying’. However, she might be one of the loveliest people you meet! You might travel to see your partner, end up meeting her, and becoming friends! There’s no need to feel insecure or jealous – like I said, we all are unique!
Figure out your insecurities
We all have them. I can guarantee that even someone as iconic as Selena Gomez has them! What you need to do is figure out what you’re insecure about. It might be your style, your hair, something about your personality, or even a person. No matter your insecurity, there’s always a way to feel better about it! If it’s your clothes that you don’t like, then sell them all and go on a shopping spree for new ones that will boost your confidence! Or another example, if you don’t like your hair, go to the salon and change it. Try to battle your insecurities – you’re bound to win!
Don't be so overprotective
If you’re constantly in your partners business, chances are it’ll push them away. This will lead to them being angry with you – which will then lead to you getting more jealous and upset. If you restrict your partner from doing a ton of things, like going to bars, or hanging with friends on the weekend, it will definitely not strengthen your relationship. You need to trust your partner so they could show you that they can be trusted. It may not sound ideal to you at first, but in order to get over jealousy, you have to step out of your comfort zone. (Click here for more advice on how to trust your partner!)
Do what you don't want to do
Now, if you find out the unfortunate news that your partner is cheating, or you know that your partner has cheated on you in the past, then the best thing for you to do is leave them. I know, this isn’t what you want to hear, but it’s a very high chance that you will never be able to trust your partner again and you will always be jealous of the friends they are with. This will only lead to resentment, arguments, and more jealousy. It’ll be extremely had for you to not be jealous, because of the fact that you’ve been let down in the past. Listen to what your heart is telling you…
I hope these tips can help you learn how to not be jealous!
As I mentioned, it’s much easier said than done, but it’s definitely possible. You’ll be much happier if you apply these tips, and in the future, you might be the go-to person when a friend needs advice on how to not be jealous!
Do you have any other tips? If so, comment below!