The most Googled question for LDR's is, "how to make a long distance relationship work".
As you’re most likely already aware, long distance relationships are not easy… Traveling back and forth to see the love of your life can get emotional, difficult, and sometimes, really stressful. You have to take work, money, and time into account. I’ve already posted a blog on my top 10 tips on how to make a LDR work, so make sure to check that blog out! Click here to read it. Now that we got those tips out of the way,
Here are 10 more tips on how to make a long distance relationship work!
1. Don't make everything about your relationship
In the beginning of my LDR, I thought I had to plan my whole life around it. I didn’t go on vacation with friends and I rarely did anything for myself… All I was concerned about was saving money to travel to see my boyfriend. I put a lot of things on hold, but that wasn’t necessary! Yes, you will have to be more careful with how you spend your money, but don’t pause everything else solely because of your relationship! Have fun!
2. Make plans for your future
In my other blog on LDR tips, I mentioned that it’s important to discuss your future. Talk it over with your partner and figure out exactly what you both want. Do you both want to live in a specific country? Do you want a modern home, a Victorian style home, heck, do you want to live on the open road!? Talk about what you want – get excited about it! Then, when the time comes, you will be prepared!
3. Set goals
This goes hand in hand with the above point. Set some goals for your relationship. How many more years do you want to do long distance? What year do you want to get married? Figure it all out in advance, so you can set yourself goals – It gives you both something to look forward to!
4. Make time for each other
Talking too much can be detrimental to your relationship. Now, this doesn’t mean to ignore each other for hours of the day… Make time for one another – even if it’s for 10 minutes! The most important tip from our last blog was that communication is key. Just don’t overdue the communication. Set time aside for you and your partner to talk.
5. Plan your trips
This is much easier said than done, but try to plan out your next visit. By doing this, you’re giving each other something to look forward to, and it makes you feel more secure. You know that the time to see your partner is approaching, and it shows that you’re serious about one another. So, try to have your trips set up a little in advance!
6. Send each other packages
We’ve talked about sending each other gifts and letters, but what about getting creative and making a little care package!? You can make a little box with photos, gifts, letters, or whatever else you want in it! It makes for a great surprise and it shows your partner that you’re thinking of them. Click here to check out a few gifts you can send!
7. Show your support
Just because you’re not together in person, doesn’t mean you can’t show support to your partner! Your partner may have just gotten a new job, got a promotion, or even passed their final, so show them that you’re proud! You can congratulate them by calling them, texting them, or as we stated above, sending them a letter. It shows your partner that you’re still there for them without really being there for them.
8. Talk about your problems
Something that has personally helped my relationship thrive, is talking about our problems. If my boyfriend and I ever got in a fight, we’d talk it out. We wouldn’t scream at each other and dramatically hang up the phone. Talking about how you feel is important. You and your partner are a team. Screaming and hanging up, is definitely not going to solve anything!
9. Get to know their friends and family
A way to feel closer to your partner is by getting to know their friends and family. Their inner circle is full of people they love and trust, so those people will always be in their life. You’ll have to get to know them eventually, so why not start now! It’ll make you feel closer to them, and to your partner.
10. Be reasonable
Remember, you need to understand that you and your partner have responsibilities. You can’t expect your partner to text you back within a few minutes, or to answer every call. Try to be reasonable!
Well, that was 10 more tips on how to make a long distance relationship work!
We hope these tips will help you and your partner work out your LDR! No matter what, stay positive, and remember why you started your relationship in the first place.
Do you have any other tips? If so, comment them down below!